Just another day in my Life
It is a gray day today, but I am thankful for the cooldown, I am thankful especially for the humidity to go away. I don’t know what it is but when there is high hunidity and heat, my anles swell to elephant size.
And right now I look down at my feet and ankles and they are actually in regular shape and size again!!!
My husband is asleep, re-energizing for another worknight. He looks so sweet when he is asleep, but he is as sweet when he is awake.
Since I got him that BBQ grill in July, every Friday and Saturday I come home late late at night and I drive into the driveway and he opens the garage door for me. Yes he does, because I don’t have to walk another 50 ft to the front door and walk up a few steps, he just opens the garage door and let me in. It seems like nothing to anyone, but it means a lot to me!
Than I smell the aroma from something being bbq’ed.
He can make some out of this world bbq’ed chicken. I never ate a better chicken like that. I told him he is a “mean” BBQ’er!
He is so in love with his Grill, and his Lawnmower, and his Weedeater, I suggested “How about I get you a coffeemaker?” He said “WHY?” “I don’t like coffee!” I stated “Well, I love it, and perhaps I can come home to fresh brewed coffee!!!”
He was laughing so hard about that.
He said ” No, it will pass with the BBQing, it just because it is new, and you know how I am with new toys!”
Thats true but I do’t want it topass, it is so comforting to come home, and you smell this aroma of BBQ’ed chicken or whatever he puts on the grill.
Mentally I am exhausted at this time. We work six days a week, and it take its toll on my brain..lol
It isnt only that I am still learning, it is also what kind of people call in with all kinds of problems. Some people cant read, and you have to help them to explain to me whats wrong or what message they see on their tv-set. Other’s are so mad, they cant stop cursing at me, and sometimes it is so bad I have to put them on hold and ask them to calm down.
yet others, can read, are not cursing, but they not capable of maneuvering with the remote to my instructions.
At times it is hillarious, other times it isn’t. It is frustrating!
So after 6 days of this, you are burned out!!!
Than there is of course my son and his text messages and calls. I spoke to him this morning, and made it perfectly clear that he can not stay with us.
I told him to either seek shelter at one of Roanoke’s shelter’s or to rent a room by the week. He agreed to doing this. I advised him to get a job and rent a room and if he needs food I wont deny it. If he needs laundry done, he can come by and do it. But under no circumstances can he stay with us!
Than we have this stinkbug invasion. I mean this critters are everywhere on the outside of the house, and some of them make it inside. My husband and I are disgusted by those bugs. I looked through the internet to find a repellent, I tried roach spray ( I believe whatever can kill a roach, will kill anything else too!) WRONG!!!!
You have to soak those suckers with roachspray before they actually die.
I called an exterminator service and they told me, there is nothing that will keep them away, the only they can do is kill em, but others will come back the same day. We can send man on the moon, but we can not take care of bugs. Hmmmmm
Yep, thats all whats going on in my life right now.
Now I sign off, and get ready for work yet again 
Love you all
God Bless you
Andrea
Here we go again
It has been many months, and many heartaches and worries.Yesterday my son’s friend called me saying “Hans wants to talk to you, can I give him your number?”
I told him “NO!” If he needs to call he can call my husbands phone. So my son did call my husband and left a voicemail. He left this message.
“Dad, Mom, I am sorry for what I have done. I am coming back to Roanoke either this weekend or Monday and wonder if I can pick up my belongings? Also me and Heather are getting a divorce, and I got nowhere to stay and wonder if I can move in with you guys temporarily? If not, perhaps I can sleep in the truck?”
My husbands response was “I am not getting inthe middle of that! I am not calling him back, it is between you and him”
Well, he is right, but I dont want my son to have my cell number, to much happened and I am sick and tired of it.
I called his friend this morning and told him
” Hans needs to get his life together but he hsa to do that without us. He has to find a job and if needed he mioght have to go to the shelter for now. He can noit stay here with us. “
This is how I feel…….
We all know my son is a pathological liar, everything he says is in one way or another to his benefit only. He is a grown man and he needs to learn to stay on his own feet.
He put me through to much. I cant do this anymore. And if I would let him stay here, I would only enable him to keep going the way he is. So, I believe now is the time to show tough love and let him lay in the bed he made as they say.
I am hurt, I am hurt because this is not what I want to do, not what I ever dreamed of happening to me and my child. But whatelse can I do?
If I let him come back home, he will not grow up and the next girl he meets he will act the same way he did in the passed. He will not learn to manage his life, money or anything.I just needed to vent here, because I don’t know if what I am doing is wrong or right??????
But I don’t want to get hurt anymore, I don’t want my marriage to suffer, and especially I don’t want my son to keep going the way he is!
What if I pass away, and he than has absolutely no one to turn to?
If I teach the lesson now, he will learn to cope with things no matter what. He will learn that life does not evolve around him only. He will learn how to manage his money. He will learn to keep a job or you lose everything. He will learn to be a man on his own two legs!
AM I WRONG??????????
Please pray for my son, pray for me as the mother in this, and for our family as a whole that we will make the right decisions. Thanks
I would really appreciate some input!
Blessings to all
Andrea
What’s going on with Andrea???
I know it has been a while since my last posting.
Right now we are on a six day work week. Mandatory overtime! YUCK!!!
I love my job though and it bothers me really little that I work from Monday to Saturday. The only hang up is, that I can not attend church because I am so pooped.
In October we have mandatory shift bids, and I am hopeful that I get the shift I am applying for. I look a shift that either gives me Saturday/Sunday off (than I don’t care what the hours are) or if I have to work Saturday’s that I have a shift that ends at about 10pm. Either way that would get me back into my church routine.
I miss Church terribly and I miss the people there.
So I am hopeful and praying about it always.
Please, if you have a minute to spare, pray for me that this shift bid will be in my favor and for God’s Glory!
Otherwise there are really no news on my end.
I work, come home, clean house a lot not so much, cook even less when I can, and the only time I go out is to shop for groceries.
My grandson and his Mom doing well. She (the Mother) is about to get married in January to a real nice guy so she says. And she told me that my son AGAIN wants to drop his parental rights. And her soon to be husband wants to adopt Hunter.
No, I haven’t heard anything from my son 
I pray, that’s all I can do. I pray for him and his safety, and I pray for his girlfriend (even though I really care less for her) but it is the right thing to do to pray for both!
I miss my son, I love my son, but I do not like him. I do not like what has become of him, and who he associates with.
I never in a million years would’ve dreamed that my son and I don’t speak and don’t see each other. If that is a lesson from God, I haven’t figured out what the lesson is. But like He said..it all works out for good. So somehow something good will come out of it.
I praise the Lord for everything, even the things I don’t understand or don’t like. He has a reason for everything, and right now we don’t see the whole picture so we don’t know why things happen the way they do!
I also pray everyday that I see my Mom before she departs from this Life. I ask Him daily to make it happen that He brings her over here, just once more.
But her health is not good.
Finally I got back in contact with my Brother but it is sparingly that he emails me. We haven’t spoken for years, because it was always me who called him, and he never took it upon himself to call me. I send Birthday and Christmas Cards and he never send one since I am in the US.
So I let it go, and than after years he emailed me. So now we email here and there, and it is good!
Finally the maintenance people here at the house started to finish to fix some problems we had in the house. They fixed the roof on the porch. YIPEEEEEE
They fixed cracked windows, and now the Fireplace is almost done. They sealed and caulked it, and next week someone will come from a Chimney service to fix the missing damper handle.
Than we just need a load of wood, and Winter can come!
But I hope ice rain and heavy loads of snow don’t come our way, since I work so far away and have to drive through some mountains. That would be a bad thing, meaning might lose hours if I cant drive to work. Or might get stuck going home at night!
Anyways, enough with the rambling. Just wanted you all to update on my life!!
Love and Blessings
Andrea
PS Keep the Lord always first in your heart
