In a way my Heart is broken

June 18, 2008 at 12:34 pm (Bible, Biblestudy, Carepages.com, Faith, Father God, Friends, GI-tract, GLory, God, Grace, HPS, Hymns, Jesus Christ, King of kings, Lord, Mercy, Physicians, Prayer, Presbyterian, Religion, Salvation, Wintley Phipps, armed forces, atheism, atheist, book, books, child support, christian living, christianity, cities, court, deadbeat dads, devotionals, diets, discernment, discipleship, end times, eternity, evangelism, fellowship, forgiveness, free books, free cd's, free dvd's, grandkids, holy bible, homestead, law, lawyer, military, ministry, peace, pentecost, prayer, thoughts, faith, friends, reading, research, saints, sanctification, scams, schemes, scripture, sleeping, spirituality, toddlers, tribulations, walk with god, weightloss)

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I been depressed lately and it all come back about my son.

A few days ago I watched a show on TV called “Intervention” and it showed alcohol and drug addicted people, where the Family from them set up an intervention and mostly those people accept the help they get offered and some not all really get “clean” and don’t turn back.

 

I wish there would be something for my son.

He is my only child and of course I worry about him, because I know in my heart of hearts that he is going in the wrong direction.

The only person that I know of he still speaks to, is his friend Scott. Scott still comes by my house and helped us also move into the new house. Every week Scott tell’s me that he spoke to my son. One time Scott mentioned me, and asked how my son feel’s about me?
My son’s reply was ” Well I love her because she is my mother, but right now I don’t want nothing to do with her, she hurt me to much. I would never move in with her again”
I am not saying I never hurt him, probably I did, not with intent but probably who doesn’t?! He hurts me more than any other person I have ever met, and he hurts me to the core. He knows which buttons to push.

So when I hear responses like that from my son to his friend, I am hurt deeply hurt, and angry. Yes, it gets me really angry.
When I am in the state of being angry I can handle the separation very well, but the anger disappears and the hurt last so much longer.

 

Now I work with this new company and lots of my male coworkers are in my son’s age even some Supervisors are in that age, and they are so nice, mature…..and than there is my son.
You know when I found out I am pregnant, the doctor right away in the office said to me “Well if you want an abortion, we can certainly make that happen within a few day’s” But I chose life for him!!!
I cared for him, I worked nights in a nightclub and days in an office. I worked weekends in a restaurant, so I could support him all by myself.

 

My Mom helped me a lot of course. I took him with me when I moved to the US, I was always here for him, but than a few years ago…….I don’t know what it was, but it was around August 2002, something happened, I truly don’t know what it was……….but from than on there was a cliff an always growing cliff between us.
We had from than on good times, and bad times.
He went through lots of troubles in his life these last few years, but troubles he caused for himself not my doing. I always wanted him to be somebody. Get a high school Diploma, but he didn’t wanted to. At least I wanted him to keep a job, but he quit and got fired so fast your head would spin.
So one day I put the brakes on and told him “Tough Love”. Either you go to that school and learn a trade or you are on your own, well from there on it really went down hill. He was incarcerated, but I let him come home after his time in Jail. Than he kept a job, everything was ok. He met a woman lived with her for a little bit, got her pregnant, and they split up.

 

I took him back in, for a while he still doing good job wise until he met that Girl he supposedly is married to now. She really put a huge gap in between me and my son.
He met her in November of last year and I haven’t seen my son for the last 6 months or so. He played cruel practical jokes on me, and she dared him to do so. And than of course to top it all she is dragging me to court for harassment.
The only good thing that came out of all this is…I finally have a relationship with my grandson and his Mom.

 

But I miss my son. I miss him so much it hurts. Many nights I sat here by myself while my husband is at work and I cry and look at pictures of him when he was little.
No I don’t want him to move back in with us. I just would want that he calls and visits like other children do! But that never going to happen as long as he is with that girl now. And now I found out that she is pregnant as well.

I needed to write it out, because it tears me up inside. There is nowhere to turn, I got to go through this myself. Many people can talk, and trying to comfort, but something inside me broke, irreparable broken. Other people show their unbelief of what happened between me and him. Yet other’s are mad at him and tell me “You doing the right thing!” But…..Is it the right thing?

I don’t know

The only comfort I find is in the Lord. What men meant for evil, God tunrs in to good. We are so fallen, and we can’t get up, only God in His mercy can lift and built us up. And I claim today that He will protect my son from himself and from others that no harm will be done to him, and that he causes no harm to anyone. I claim that the Lord show mercy on my son and myself and that he some day brings us together, that there will be sunshine after all this storming.

 

 

Love Andrea
 

 

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Children and Cancer, what an ugly ugly thing

June 11, 2008 at 11:00 am (Bible, Biblestudy, Carepages.com, Faith, Father God, Friends, GI-tract, GLory, God, Grace, HPS, Hymns, Jesus Christ, King of kings, Lord, Mercy, Physicians, Prayer, Presbyterian, Religion, Salvation, Wintley Phipps, armed forces, atheism, atheist, book, books, child support, christian living, christianity, cities, court, deadbeat dads, devotionals, diets, discernment, discipleship, end times, eternity, evangelism, fellowship, forgiveness, free books, free cd's, free dvd's, grandkids, holy bible, homestead, law, lawyer, military, ministry, peace, pentecost, prayer, thoughts, faith, friends, reading, research, saints, sanctification, scams, schemes, scripture, sleeping, spirituality, toddlers, tribulations, walk with god, weightloss)

 

For month’s I been reading about this little sweet boy Julian. Well Julian passed a few months ago due to cancer. His mom still writwes on carepages.com, and I still read her blog entries. She made this new video and it shows the pain what does kids and the parents go through.

This is not a video you want to watch the first time with your kids, I advise to watch it alone first and than decide if you want your child to watch it.

 

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Tired, Busy, Pain, and more….

June 9, 2008 at 11:21 pm (Bible, Biblestudy, Carepages.com, Faith, Father God, Friends, GI-tract, GLory, God, Grace, HPS, Hymns, Jesus Christ, King of kings, Lord, Mercy, Physicians, Prayer, Presbyterian, Religion, Salvation, Wintley Phipps, armed forces, atheism, atheist, book, books, child support, christian living, christianity, cities, court, deadbeat dads, devotionals, diets, discernment, discipleship, end times, eternity, evangelism, fellowship, forgiveness, free books, free cd's, free dvd's, grandkids, holy bible, homestead, law, lawyer, military, ministry, peace, pentecost, prayer, thoughts, faith, friends, reading, research, saints, sanctification, scams, schemes, scripture, sleeping, spirituality, toddlers, tribulations, walk with god, weightloss)

 

 

Well it’s been a while since I last posted……………

nothing much happened really except I am still unpacking and honestly I am getting tired of it.

I have severe pain in both my feet. I thought since I have a sit-down job now I wouldn’t have no footpain anymore, but it got even worse now. Yesterday it was so bad I could hardly move. Seems to me there will be soon a doctor visit for me.

Currently we are extremly busy at work, like we get no break in between calls. One call ends and the next one is coming in. On Saturday night/Sunday mornign I came home and my hubby and I sat on the couch for a little bit talking. Alloversudden in the middle of a sentence I lose my voice COMPLETELY!
Thinking well this will pass. Got up Sunday, and still no voice. Over the course of the say my voice came back off and on. Today I have my voice back but it sounds like I am hoarse.

I am ok, as long as it wont go away. I work on the phone ya know. I need my voice!

LAst Sunday I had a little flood in the basement cause the sink next to the washer had a crack,but the maintenance man cmae and fixed it, and everything is fine now.
What we found out though is………….the airconditioner doesn’t work well. Well the airconditioner does but the house is poorly insulated. But I already got a call from the realtor that this coming Friday someone will come by to install insulation under the roof (cant think of the word for that area). I hope that this will solve the problem, cause if it doesnt cool down the house now, it wont keep the heat in the winter and that could be very costly!

Like I said, nothing much happening here, besides me wmoving furniture back and forth, and trying to unpack everything. Work is getting easier, but every now and than I am confronted with a problem and dont know how to fix it, and need to ask for help.

But I really like my job.

God has shown himself so much to me, he showers me with so many many blessings, and grace. He is with me in all calls at work and he is just AMAZING!!!

 

Hope you all have a great week

Love Andrea

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House Blessing

June 3, 2008 at 11:56 am (christianity)

I been thinking about this for a few days………………

I would like to invite everyone of my church who likes to come for a “House Blessing” (don’t even know if that is the correct discription??) But I always lived in places I just live, know what I mean? Now I live in a Home that I really love and even start to enjoy.
Yes there is lots of work still left to do, but I get it done in tiny little steps here and there. Like the windows, I gave up on them. I cleaned yesterday for 4 hours only the windows from the Familyroom and they still look as filthy as before.

But to get back on the subject………….
Now I am in a position that I actually can invite more than two people at one time. The summer is here, and I would like to have a big cookout with all my church Family. I am thinking of something like potluck, where I of course provide lots of things but not everything. Does that make any sense??

I love my Church Family and I would like them to come and we can sit out in the yard, we can have games like badminton, soccer,etc for the kids, and we can have food, and I know there are a few guitarists in my Church (You all know who you are David, Zach, Chris??)
I am thinking of a little Bible reading and Housewarming.
And just hang out for a nice time!
I also think of a Saturday and perhaps in AugustSeptember (by than I should have this mess fixed)
Of course I havent planned out all the details, like chairs, tables, etc. that will come later.

But I really have my heart set on it!

What do you guys think?

Love Andrea

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A Hurricane and the Virgin ride

June 2, 2008 at 11:27 am (Bible, Biblestudy, Carepages.com, Faith, Father God, Friends, GI-tract, GLory, God, Grace, HPS, Hymns, Jesus Christ, King of kings, Lord, Mercy, Physicians, Prayer, Presbyterian, Religion, Salvation, Wintley Phipps, armed forces, atheism, atheist, book, books, child support, christian living, christianity, cities, court, deadbeat dads, devotionals, diets, discernment, discipleship, end times, eternity, evangelism, fellowship, forgiveness, free books, free cd's, free dvd's, grandkids, holy bible, homestead, law, lawyer, military, ministry, peace, pentecost, prayer, thoughts, faith, friends, reading, research, saints, sanctification, scams, schemes, scripture, sleeping, spirituality, toddlers, tribulations, walk with god, weightloss)

Well folks,

we been living here since Friday a week ago, and it looks like we just moved in a few hours ago. Nothing is going the way I wish it would be!

Let’s start at the Beginning…………………..

it was planned that my husband goes to the Realtor to sign his part on the lease Friday Morning at 9:00am, well he did. Than he was sitting in their office because they couldnt find the keys to our house. Finally at 10:00am they informed him that they lost the keys, but that the Landlord would open the door, and than on the following Monday (memorial Day) the maintenance man would change locks.

So, we moved in. The move alone took us almost 4 day’s. Who would’ve thought! In the very Beginning of that move a friend helped us with a few pieces, the heavy ones that my husband and I couldnt do alone. Than that friend left, and it was us alone.
When we got to the house though I realised that the Kitchen wasn’t cleaned at all. And the boxes with all the dishes and food arrived, and filled up the Kitchen and I wasn’t able to put them up. So I claled my Friend jennifer (Pastor’s Wife) and she came over and cleaned for a few hours the cabinets.
THANK YOU JENNIFER!!!!

Like I said we moved for day’s. Than on last Sunday I went to the old house and cleaned it up.  And now since we live in here we realised a few more things that are wrong. 

 

So, of course the Maintenance Man did show up bright and early with a smile on his face, cause he couldn’t think of being anywhere else on Memorial Day than in our house to change locks. Uhmmm NO, he never showed up and I understand I wouldn’t had either, but to us it was frustrating. He came however on Tuesday and put a new lock in.
On friday we realised that the new lock doesn’t work. You couldn’t lock with the key, but when you turned the knob inside and than smacked the door shut it wouldn’t open so I thought. On Friday my husband showed me, that when you turn the knob and smack the door shut and are outside and than wiggle hard enough with that lock it pops right back open.
So I had to call again, but thankfully they came out the same day and it is fixed now.

Yesterday I went downstairs in the basement to wash laundry. Everything looks real nice for a basement. So I started my laundry and as I stay at the washer I look around me and up towards the ceiling where I happen to see this huge pipe going right by me. As I followed the pipe with my eyes, I realise this is the sewer pipe and it is a beauty of a pipe  Uhmmm, NO…about two feet over my heat I see damage to that pipe, and for some smart reason someone taped ducktape over where the pipe tries to bust. Than I go upstairs work in the house and after a while I put the next load of Laundry in, and a while later when I went back downstairs the basement is flooded. The sink next to the washer is leaking badly.
Also the faucet in the bathroom is bad. Of course when I told the maintenance Man about the faucet last week he assured me I would get a new faucet. Of course he fix it! Nope!

Now the windows……………….OH MY GOODNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Each window consists of a top window, a inside window you can slide up and down, another window you can slide up and down and a screen. Uhmmm I have only 6 windows alone in the familyroom. And they are filthy.
Today’s task is to clean those windows in the Familyroom.

After we moved I went to Walmart and bought blinds, all happy that my hubby will put them up on Saturday the day after we moved in. On a side note. My hubby always wanted a little toolbox which I got him for last Christmas. Nothing big just a cheap thing witha  few tools in it and a Drill. So he is all set to hook up those blinds, right?
NOPE!
When I got home Saturday night from work, there were two blinds hanging up. I asked him whats going on. All day and you have two blinds up?? He said it is very difficult. And that he already broke two drill bits.
And he told me that I bought the wrong sizes.
HAH!!! Not so, but my hubby decided not to use the correct blind for the correct window. I should’ve bought him  a measuring tape instead of a drill   So he didnt install thse TWO blinds on the isnide of the frame but chose to put them over the frame. It looks great! Finally in the course of the week he did manage to put up all 6 in the familyroom, 1 in the bathroom, and two in the bedroom. They all hang in different way’s.
My husband is truly a Handyman!!!!
I wish I could afford to get someone in here to fix this! 

This passed Saturday he finally was able to go out to yard and mow. And he was happy. He mowed and mowed and mowed some more. I had to leave for work and I think he really likes mowing. I watched him driving up and down. It was hillarious. He never had a riding lawnmower and so he isn’t used to when he takes off. Everytime he took off it looked like the lawnmower gonna throw him off. But after a few times he got the hang of things.

Below I have a Slideshow from my hubby on the mower! I will go now and start cleaning those windows!

Till later
Love Andrea

 


 

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